Why New Year’s Resolutions Fail
Windsor, Ontario, 2017: It is the same for most people and it is repeated year after year. Every New Year 90% of all people set some sort of New Year’s resolutions. Yet, 92% of those resolutions will fail and here is why. Shooting for the moon can become so overwhelming and stressful that success seems too far away. In these cases any progress short of your goal is looked at as failure. Therapist Rick Saruna of Body and Mind in Windsor, Ontario calls this, “The Mind Trap.” Abandoning a goal or a resolution that is a struggle releases a person from the feeling of failure since they are not actively trying. It is a way of justifying a negative behavior with a behavior that subconsciously is perceived as less negative. Subconscious expert Rick Saruna says, “The thought is if you are not trying you are not failing.” The most common New Year’s resolutions or goals people set are for weight loss and to quit smoking. These two goals are set by many each and every New Year. Yet by the end of January these goals are abandoned and old behaviors are resumed. However, they can still be achieved if done properly. In order for goals to be achieved they need to be more specific, realistic and attainable. This is true especially of someone that has been trying repeatedly for the same goals without success. A determined and motivated person can go for their goal and attain it. Determination is decided by motivation. Motivation is determined by belief. Belief if determined by previous success. So if a person has experienced failure in the past the chance of success in the future will drop significantly. The key is to set smaller and more obtainable goals because success will breed success. The important thing is to see each step as an achievement to motivate to the next step. Clinical therapist Rick Saruna who specializes in weight loss and quit smoking says, “When someone has a goal that is important to them and they are struggling, then they should seek a specialist to help them. This will keep motivation high, goals broken down in to steps and it will be done in a supportive environment. Then, you will reach your goals.” Rick Saruna is Clinical Director of Body & Mind, a Counselling and Therapy Centre in Windsor, Ontario. They specialize in helping people quit smoking, lose weight, remove anxiety and achieve their goals. They can be contacted at 519-948-0078 and at www.StressFree.net
Eat Your Way To Weight Loss
There is a common misconception that you have to starve yourself to lose weight. This is simply not true! Actually, you must eat to lose weight. It is the Glycemic index that can help you determines what happens in your body. Let me explain. Your body needs glucose, which is a form of sugar, and is the main fuel for the body. The body is constantly trying to maintain blood sugar levels and it is the carbohydrates we eat that turns into glucose which goes directly into the blood stream to feed all the cells of the body. Glucose is the only fuel your brain uses and it is the brain that uses more energy than any other part of your body. If your blood sugar goes down, it starves the brain and a wide variety of symptoms can occur such as feeling weak and sluggish, drowsy, dizzy, confused, headache, irritability, trembling, rapid heartbeat, and even anxiety and panic attacks. Carbohydrates alone do not make a healthy body. We need a balance of protein, carbohydrates, fat, water and exercise to maintain health. The biggest difficulty that we have with weight problems is over indulging in high glycemic foods. These are the foods that contain too much sugar or foods that are refined carbohydrates. If you over indulge in carbohydrates, (which produce insulin) then the excess glucose gets stored as fat. You can counter that by eating protein with it, (which produces glucagons). Glucagons promote the utilization of fat to be used for energy. Insulin and glucagons in balance maintain normal blood sugar levels. A body in a high insulin state promotes excess stored fat and disease. The foods that are high on the glycemic index are foods such as the root family, potatoes, carrots, parsnips, yams etc. If you want to eat potatoes then I’d opt for the yams or sweet potato (without the honey and brown sugar). They are the lowest on the glycemic scale. Also rice, pasta, corn, most breads are high on the scale as well as some fruits like bananas, apricots and pineapple. Some low index foods are vegetables such as broccoli, the lettuce and cabbage family, various beans, dairy and for women, soy. I would also like to make a mention about fat. Fat in itself is not the bad guy. Our diets need fat to remain healthy. Fat provides fuel for the body plus it helps in the development of cell membranes and hormones and also helps to insulate our bodies. Fat in our foods is what gives us that satisfied feeling. You don’t need very much fat intake. Stick with good fats like olive oil, flax oil, coconut oil and stay away from saturated or trans fats. Portion size is very important. The rule to remember is; if you have approximately 3 oz. of protein and you have a high index carb, then eat only 3oz of that carb. It is a one to one ratio. A protein and a low index carb would be 3 oz of protein and 6 oz of carb. It is a 1 to 2 ratio. Eat 6 small meals per day in the correct ratio this will assist you in your dietary needs to lose weight. Also don’t forget water, water, water and make it your new favourite drink. Enjoy! Need help losing weight? We can help at Body and Mind in Windsor, Ontario. We specialize in helping people like you lose weight, remove emotional eating and relieve stress. Call us today for more information at 519-948-0078
Weight Loss – Windsor, Ontario
This is one our society’s greatest struggles. I was watching some old reruns from the 60’s and 70’s and was surprised to see that most people were quite thin. Not just the actors but people in crowds and public places. So what happened? It looks like a lot of things have changed all around us. What people eat as well as lifestyle seems to be more obvious as the cause. There really are many different variables that have directly impacted society and how we live. It still comes down that in order to lose weight and keep it off there has to be a lifestyle change. This is the key. People often tell us they are too busy to eat real meals and drive thus are convenient. Too busy and too tired to exercise yet most tell us they want to. Body and Mind in Windsor Ontario has been helping people lose weight successfully since the 1990’s. We specialize in Weight Loss, Quit Smoking, Stress, Anxiety and behavior modification. Body and Mind has unlocked some of the secrets that have been helping people lose weight, remove stress and improve the quality of their lives. Rick Saruna is clinical director of Body and Mind and he has been involved in the self help field since the 1980’s. He is clinical director of Body and Mind in Windsor and has helped 1000’s of people make some major changes in their lives. The weight loss program of Body and Mind is unlike any others because of all the things it incorporates into it. The weight loss system involves increasing metabolism, removing cravings and changing your thoughts about food. Isn’t this what weight loss should be all about?! So how is this done? There are varieties of techniques that we tried and tested until we were finally able to come up with something that was effective and was not a diet. The problem with diets is that the very word diet means to go without. The brain cannot process a negative so if I tell you NOT to think of a pink elephant, you MUST think of one. So, if you can’t eat something the focus will be on that very food! However, if you don’t feel like eating that food no one can talk you into it. This is because your ideas are always the best! We have developed a very unique process with cool light laser applied to various points on the body to stimulate metabolism and also to help in diminishing cravings. It is relaxing, calming and pain free. To change the thoughts about food we need to change thoughts and thinking. This is done through hypnosis. Hypnosis Weight Loss has been proven to be effective when done through a program with an experienced hypnotist. Rick Saruna is Windsor’s leading hypnotist. He is also a hypnosis instructor able to certify anyone interested in learning hypnosis. By working directly with the subconscious hypnotic processes help change thoughts and thinking about food. The stress reduction part of this process helps remove emotional eating. If you are ready to lose weight, remove stress and feel better than ever then you need to call our office and learn more. You will be glad you did.
Windsor’s Fulltime Hypnosis Practice
Body and Mind in Windsor in a fulltime therapy practice that is also Windsor’s top rated hypnosis specialist. Rick Saruna clinical director has trained in hypnosis for many years and has worked with 1,000s of people. Hypnosis itself is widely misunderstood and the results are almost magical although it is not magic. Hypnosis is a very natural and normal state that most people do not realize they slip into many many times throughout the day. It’s that place right before sleep although it is not sleep. People may look like they are sleeping but your mind is very active. Many people when they are hypnotized by a trained professional hypnotist may even wonder if they were actually hypnotized because it feels so natural. Everyone can be hypnotized that is willing. Yes everyone, although they say the smarter you are the easier it is to experience this deep relaxing state of the subconscious mind. So if you live in the Windsor, Ontario then Body & Mind can help you with just about whatever issue you would like to work on. For some it is stress and anxiety. Stress and anxiety responds very well to hypnosis and the overall relaxation effect. Quitting Smoking and Weight Loss are probably the top 2 reasons people seek out hypnosis. We also combine weight loss and quit smoking with a laser process that makes an amazing increase in success. If you would like to lose weight or stop smoking we can help you. Rick Saruna is the area’s top hypnotists trained in clinical hypnosis as well as Comedy Stage Hypnosis. This type of comedy hypnosis is much different than stage show hypnosis. Many people think that stage show hypnotists are great in a clinical situation and this is just not true. Always seek someone that has strong clinical experience and has been trained properly. Rick Saruna has trained with some of the best over the years and now trains people to become certified as well. We offer Certified Hypnosis Training for those that would like to learn more to enhance what they do or perhaps even to change career paths. Hypnosis has actually been shown to get much quicker results than most other types of therapies. So if you are looking to create some changes in thought and also behaviours we welcome you to call us to book an appointment and see how hypnosis can help you. Call Body and Mind in Windsor Ontario at 519-948-0078 today!
Rick Saruna – Body & Mind Clinical Director
Rick Saruna is clinical director of Body and Mind in Windsor Ontario. He has been helping people since the 1990s with creating changes in thoughts, thinking and behaviors. Since he works with the subconscious he is able to create long lasting change at a deep level. Many people come to Body and Mind to see Rick Saruna for emotional issues such as anger, sadness, fear and guilt. These also include related physical issues due to stress, anxiety and even depression. The processes used by Rick Saruna involve his unique Rapid Emotional Release (a technique he developed) that works with lifting the stuck emotional issue. Many times without even having to talk about it until you are ready. Rick Saruna is also a Victim Services approved counsellor and works with some high profile trauma and victims of crime. His techniques work and they work in many cases quickly. The key is always finding the real issue(s). Rick Saruna is known for his no non sense approach and ability to see where the real issues are located. Body & Mind offers individual and family counselling for all issues. If you are not sure all you have to do is ask. Many health professionals use Rick because he is caring and compassionate and his experience is shown with his confidence when dealing with sensitive and emotional issues. Body & Mind clinic is also well known and respected for their Quit Smoking Program. The smoking cessation program consists of a unique process not offered anywhere else. It is Laser, Hypnosis and Support. Laser is a cool light noninvasive and relaxing as it actually reduces nicotine craving. We combine this with a therapeutic hypnosis process to help you change your thoughts of smoking. It I then supported with ongoing visits to make sure you are confident in your new nonsmoking lifestyle. Body & Mind is also well known for its Weight Loss Programs. It also is a combination of Laser and Hypnosis. The laser is similar to the smoking but different points are used to increase metabolism. Laser is done as needed the help stimulate metabolism and also helpful in removing sugar cravings. Hypnosis is then used to help create new points of reference and allow the subconscious to allow you to make the right choices. Hypnosis is calming and relaxing and is excellent in removing stress. So people report back how well they are sleeping and now feeling. Also it needs to be mentioned that anyone can be hypnotized that is willing to be hypnotized. Rick Saruna also does coaching and works with many top business people to remove stress and help them accomplish their goals. Corporate talks are available and demonstration of the mind will be demonstrated. If you are looking for personal training or for small groups we can accommodate you. This would also hypnosis training for anyone that is looking to become a hypnotist. Check – StressFree.net for more info or call Body & Mind – 519-948-0078.
About Us – Body and Mind – Rick Saruna
Body and Mind Natural Health Clinic is located in Windsor Ontario. The clinic specializes many different types of treatments and techniques helping people with a variety of issues, problems and situations. Well known for its results in some of the most difficult and unusual cases because of their experience and knowledge. Rick Saruna is the clinical director and has been well known in the natural health field since the 1990s. People have travelled throughout North America to experience what Rick Saruna has to offer. A specialist in behavioral change Rick has been able to help people in many personal issues and situations. He is sought out for counselling and therapy for Individual and Family Counselling. This includes personal issues as well as family and marital issues. Rick Saruna is a specialist when it comes to stress, anxiety, anger, fears and sadness. His whole philosophy is that there are many natural ways to allow the Body and Mind to function so much better in a natural and normal way. If medications are not what you desire or they are not getting you the results you need then call the offices of Body and Mind and ask for an appointment with Rick Saruna. Rick is a therapist, counsellor and has developed many techniques and processes that he teaches at conferences conventions. He developed a process of quickly lifting stuck emotional issues though an eye pattern process called Rapid Emotional Release and Empowerment. The process is often called RER and also RERE. It is a gentle method that allows an emotion to lift without having to get into the details of a traumatic situation. RER avoids having to relive the details unlike conventional therapies. Rick is an approved Victim Services Counsellor. Rick Saruna of Body & Mind is also an author and wrote the popular book called Thought Shifting – How to Remove The Negative Inner Voice in 30 Days. Copies are available online and also in the clinic. This book teaches you how to gain control of your thoughts and your thinking to remove negativity and learn how to become more positive. Rick Saruna is also trained in guided imagery, visualization and hypnosis. A very well know hypnotist and hypnosis instructor he has trained in many levels of hypnosis and teaches at conferences his RER ( Rapid Emotional Release and Empowerment) as well as his Thought Shifting. When it comes to hypnosis and hypnosis training Rick Saruna is a leader in his field having more experience in hypnosis than anyone else in the area. The Body & Mind clinic has been using and working with hypnosis for many years. Professional clinical hypnosis is not stage or entertainment hypnosis. Many people think that stage hypnosis is similar but it is not. When working with hypnosis always work with a well-trained clinical hypnosis specialist. Rick Saruna has trained many local hypnotists and often does career training in clinical hypnosis. He can certify you as a trained hypnotist. Rick Saruna is also trained with some of the top Las Vegas stage hypnotists and can also do stage shows for presentations and even corporate trainings as well. Call Body and Mind today at 519-948-0078.
Body and Mind Quit Smoking with Laser and Hypnosis
The best thing any smoker could possibly do is quit smoking. Since smoking is the number one avoidable cause of death in the world its importance cannot be more over estimated. Most people that try to quit smoking fail miserably because most methods just do not work. The issue that arises with smoking cessation is finding something that works for you. It doesn’t matter what the method you try it has to work with removing or reducing cravings, stress control and support. Most stop smoking methods do very poorly and have extremely low success rates. Body and Mind of Windsor, Ontario developed a very successful quit smoking method that works with reducing cravings, managing stress, changing the thought of smoking and offers support to see you through. It was developed by Body and Mind founder Rick Saruna in Windsor, Ontario. Body and Mind quit smoking program has an extremely high success rate because it works on helping people reduce cravings with a laser process. Laser to stop smoking is with a cool light laser that is totally pain free and proven to reduce nicotine cravings. Many people have been able to stop smoking effortlessly with laser alone. The Body and Mind program is so much more. Hypnosis was added and increased success dramatically. Why hypnosis? Nothing else works with the power of the mind while reducing stress and changing the thoughts of smoking. Many people that attempt to quit smoking with other methods will tell you that thoughts of smoking often hijack attempts to quit smoking. Hypnosis is a natural process that is relaxing and stress reducing. Imagine stop smoking while being more relaxed and stress free. Everyone can be hypnotized that is willing and has a desire. Since it is a natural process many people do not realize how often they go into a hypnotic state of hypnosis. The most common is road hypnosis when you don’t remember the ride to and from work. It is a common feeling and hypnosis is a very common state of experience. Body and Mind has been using hypnosis for many different issues and has been helping people quit smoking since the 1990’s. No one has more experience with hypnosis than Rick Saruna in Windsor, Ontario, Canada. The final piece of the puzzle is support. In order the successfully quit smoking one needs to know that they are working with an experienced and knowledgeable professional such as Body and Mind and Rick Saruna. This will give you all the tools to reduce cravings, change thoughts of smoking and have the support to guide you confidently down the road of a non-smoker lifestyle. It can be easier than you think.
Anxiety & Depression Symptoms Removed With Rapid Emotional Release Technique
Rapid Emotional Release and Empowerment also known as RERE has shown amazing effectiveness lifting signs of ANXIETY and DEPRESSION. We always recommend working with your medical doctor when anyone is on meds or medical care. We can never recommend going off meds without working with your doctor as your symptom begin to disappear. Removes Anxiety and Depression Symptoms RERE is a process that removes stuck emotional issues quickly and easily. It is a non invasive process that has been proven effective in the most difficult emotion issues and situations. All emotions have been proven to improve with RERE. It has also been used with great success for issues such as anger, sadness, fears, guilt an more. The process was developed by Body an Mind clinical director and therapist Rick Saruna. Proven with 1,000s of clients over 15 years RERE can help you remove issues as well as any blocks in your way to self improvement an empowerment. Call the offices of Body & Mind to learn more about the process that is changing the way therapy is being administered. The office number is 519-948-0078. Appointments are available evenings an weekends by appointment. Body & Mind is offering a FREE Evaluation as a special promotion. Many people report feeling better after this evaluation! You can call the office at 519-948-0078 and get your FREE EVALUATION. Body and Mind in Windsor, Ontario.
Laser And Hypnosis Quit Smoking Program
Quit Smoking with Our Easy Quit Program Body And Mind is giving away bonus support sessions for 2014 . All included in our program. ALSO – Great News! We have been able to keep last year’s pricing! Hurry while it lasts! Laser and Hypnosis Quit Smoking Program. We have an amazing success rate that will help keep you a non smoker. Our special combination of laser and hypnosis is a unique and proven combination unavailable anywhere else. We are the original Windsor Laser and Hypnosis Quit Smoking program. We have helped 1,000s since the 1990s become non smokers. People from all over Michigan and Ontario have been coming to see us for years. We can help you too. Body and Mind of Windsor Ontario is your choice when you want to stop smoking. Laser and Hypnosis is safe and effective. We spend time with every client to help you fully understand all parts of the process and we support you along the way. Isn’t It That Time To Quit Smoking? If You Know It Is… We Can Help You make It Easy and Automatic! Call Us Today 519-948-0078 Contact Us Now! You’ll be glad you did!
Anxiety: How It Affects Us
Anxiety is already a part of our lives as a way of adapting to various events around us. Each person has already experienced anxiety even in day-to-day activities like studying for exams, hearing negative news, preparing corporate reports, and even waiting for something that has yet to come. Anxiety can also become our greatest ally in determining dangers and unpleasantness around us. A dark street or a suspicious stranger can trigger anxiety that lets our most primitive survival response take over; the fight or flight response. However, the question remains. Should we allow anxiety to linger? Or do we need to let go of it some time? Like everything else, too much anxiety brings harm to our system. Being too anxious especially with unreasonable causes can become a problem when it goes out of hand. We have identified some of the negative effects of anxiety to us. Anxiety Reduces Productivity – Most work and school-related non-productivity is caused by anxiety. Thinking too much of our problems can affect the way we think and what we think. It clouds our initiative preventing us from thinking properly. It makes us lose our concentration making us vulnerable to illogical decisions that can affect work and/or studies. Anxiety Affects Social Life – Anxious people are usually irritable and edgy. Ever have a friend in one of your social networks complain about his/her problems online? It is a common scenario among people with anxiety disorder to vent out problems online. Even offline especially in social gatherings, anxiety affects how a person interacts with others. It becomes an issue when someone with anxiety disorder starts showing signs of discomfort. Anxiety Harms the Body – The human body produces chemicals and hormones to combat unusual experiences whether internal or external. Anxiety raises the level of chemicals and hormones produced by our body to counteract the overwhelming feeling. Too much of these chemicals and hormones is harmful to the system. Anxiety Leads to Addiction – When chemicals from the body are not enough to relieve the negative feeling, a person with anxiety disorder resorts to external stimulants like alcohol, food, and drugs. These stimulants may or may not provide temporary relief but these can cause harm to the body when taken in large and frequent doses. Anxiety Causes Death – Depression, a severe condition caused by anxiety, has been one of the most common reasons for suicide. A person plagued with anxiety is in a constant state of fear, worry, and dread. These can lead to severe despondency that causes a person to question his/her existence and purpose leading to self-mutilation. Anxiety disorder is a serious condition that needs immediate treatment from an expert therapist using proven methods in relieving anxiety disorder and other related issues. Body and Mind Natural Health is a leading expert in quit-smoking, weight-loss, and treating stress-related conditions particularly anxiety, depression, and traumas/phobias. You can call the office at 519-948-0078. Body and Mind in Windsor, Ontario.
Stress , Anxiety or Depression – We Have Therapy That Works!
Everyone knows someone that is having some issues managing emotions, thoughts and feelings. In fact we have all at one point ourselves have felt some of this as well. Like most serious issues the most logical thing many do is go to their medical doctor and get a script to “numb” the pain or many just do nothing because they figure it will pass like bad weather. Some may go to different therapies and relive the issues over and over in hopes that the words lose meaning. Talk therapy really can help but many of the clients I see tell me that although it helped it never went away. This is why many people I see come in because they are not satisfied with just making it a little better – they want it gone! or at least they want tools and techniques to help manage thoughts in the future. This is what we specialize in. We have anxiety and depression therapy that works. Stress Anxiety Depression – We Specialize in Results and Rapid Change Anxiety and / or depression is something that we have great success with handling and managing here at the Body & Mind clinic in Windsor, Ontario. Most people will say that they are not sure why they have it or where it started so we have been able to help people locate the beginning of the problem and actually remove the emotion that started it all. This process we have developed is called Rapid Emotional Release and Empowerment (RERE). It is truly amazing how quickly we can help people feel better quite quickly in most situations. yes anxiety and depression can be lifted. I say most situations because there are rare situations where some people actually think they are benefiting from the problem! This is called secondary gain. It is rare but it does exist. You might be reading this for you or for someone else. This other person maybe going through things that you are not aware of. Here at the Windsor, Ontario clinic of Body and Mind we specialize in all this. We also offer a FREE Evaluation to better understand the clients situation, to give them a chance to see how we can help and then we decide if we want to work with each other. If you or a loved one are suffering from stress, depression, anxiety we can help. Stress Anxiety Depression – It Does Not Matter How Long Ago or From What – We Have Methods That Work You can call the office at 519-948-0078. Body and Mind in Windsor, Ontario.
10 Reasons Why You Need To Work on Your Marriage
It is no surprise that today many marriages end in divorce or separation. As marriage rates rise, so does the number of divorce and separation cases. In Canada alone, it is expected that almost one-third of Canadian marriages are dissolved before reaching the first 10 years. In other countries, divorce rates could reach up to 80%. While divorce or separation is common, it is not a good sight to behold especially to those who have strong family values. Worse, divorce or separation affects not only the couples but also their children, their families, friends, and even others. Below are some of the reasons why a couple needs to work on their marriage and settle their differences before ending up in divorce. Divorce is expensive. Ever wonder how much divorce in Canada cost? Some people can only speculate on how much a couple would be spending to dissolve their marriage. According to The 2014 Canadian Lawyer Legal Fees Survey, uncontested divorce costs from $920 to $1,739 with an average of $1,169. Contested divorce, however, costs $5,735 to $39,522 with an average of $10,406 depending on the duration of the case. These fees don’t include fees for Child Custody Agreement, Spousal Support Agreement, and Division of Property Agreement. Divorce is a long and tiresome process. A divorce process in Canada can take months or years to be finalized depending on the number of unique factors that can affect the process. A divorce will only be granted if a spouse has been separated from his/her partner for at least one year or has established one of the other grounds for dissolution of the marriage: adultery or physical/emotional cruelty. Once filed, an uncontested divorce may take four to six months, provided the paper work is completed correctly and submitted early. A contested divorce can span out for years before being finalized. The number of claims also determine the length of the process. Claims such as custody or access, support or division of property, can affect the duration of the divorce process. This means more hassles and court appearances. Divorce leaves negative impact on the children. When a couple decides to get a divorce, the most affected individuals are not the parents themselves. It’s the children. Most parents are not aware that children experience stress when they find out their parents “no longer love each other”. It causes fear, anxiety, and thoughts of rebelling against their parents.Children who grew up in broken families are more prone to peer pressure and vices. In a study in 2013 conducted by the University of Toronto to 19,000 Americans, it found out that: “Men who experienced parental divorce before they turned 18 had 48-per-cent higher odds of ever smoking 100 or more cigarettes than men whose parents did not divorce. Women from divorced families were also at risk, with 39-per-cent higher odds of smoking in comparison to women from intact families.” Children who have divorced parents are also prone to more serious problems like drug/alcohol addiction, sexual intercourse at early age, aggression, disobedience, misdemeanor, and in worst cases, felony. Divorce can lead to child custody battles. This may not pose as a problem for divorced childless couples but for those who have child/children, this is an ugly process. While most parents would settle for fair Child Custody Agreement, others won’t. Sometimes child custody is disputed. When this happens, child custody is given to only one parent, the parent with the means and fit to care for the child/children. This means that a child will experience the pain of growing up apart from his/her father/mother. The parent who lost child custody also experiences the same pain. Divorce can lead to division of property. In Canada, laws may vary from one province or territory to another. However, division of assets after dissolution of marriage is present in the laws of these provinces or territory. Unless a prenuptial agreement was established, the divorced spouses are forced to equally share the value of the property acquired during their marriage. This becomes a disadvantage to the person who worked more or spent more in acquiring the assets. Divorce creates more feuds. Divorce becomes uglier when the families and friends of each of the spouse get involved. When families or friends take side and hurl blame, the situation escalates to a point when differences between the couples can no longer be resolved. This is true among people with strong attachment to their family or friends. Family members or friends may drag other individuals into the dispute especially when the divorce was cause by infidelity. Divorce causes emotional problems. The emotional effect of divorce varies from one individual to another. While some divorced couples move on easily, others dwell on the trauma that divorce has brought them. This makes them angry, emotionally unstable, irritable, anxious, or annoying. This makes them lose self-esteem and self-respect. Divorce leaves you vulnerable to opportunist. While divorce causes a lot of defensive emotional effects like distrust, it can also result to the opposite. Some divorced individuals feel unloved and develop a need for affection from just about anybody who shows interest in them. Their low self-esteem make them disregard their self-worth. As a way of coping up with the grief of an unsuccessful marriage, they would easily believe any promise of companionship in their need to be loved. This allows plotters and gold-diggers to move in and take advantage of the lack of self-esteem of a divorced individual. Finding a new partner may be riskier than keeping your current one. Why? The answer is simple: you know your current partner better than the new one considering the time you spent with your spouse. Dating a new partner, especially someone you’ve just met, increases your risk of introducing someone worse than your current partner. It also increases the risk of contracting sexually transmitted diseases. Unless your new partner presents you with his/her latest medical certificate proving he/she is free from STD, there’s no other way to know the truth except having